I’m positive the most important lesson I’ve learned over the course of the past year is the importance of positivity in life. And it’s taken long enough dammit, I’m ’bout to be a quarter of a century old fercryingoutloud!
My freshmen year of college I went through (what is now to me) a pretty serious depression that would come and go over the next 5 years. I experienced firsthand all the effects negativity and a general downerish disposition can have on not only you and your health, but the people around you who you claim to love. Family, friends and friends of friends have no desire to be around people representing that negative energy in life… that complicated Darth Vader vibe, as cool and badass as he may be, is not a good look when trying to present yourself! Open yourself to the lighter side of The Force, alright?
We’ve all been beaten down before, gone through the shit and cursed the hand that fate has given us… but fuck that. The one thing I distinctly remember about that rough patch is how absolutely exhausting being a negative person was. You constantly have things to worry about, people to avoid and you have to be ever vigilant that those dark thoughts don’t become abusive speech or action, or you lose sight and completely stop caring. Your mind is never at ease in the shadows. Being negative is a lot!
Compare that to being a positive force and looking forward to each moment and letting the past live behind you, not constantly ON you. It’s easy to see which is healthier for the human psyche. And lightyears more fun too!
Positive energy breeds even more positivity and that applies to any position in life, from being a reputable CEO of a Fortune 500 to handing out mints in a men’s bathroom somewhere deep in West Hollywood. If you are a positive force in life, not only will you bring that positivity out in others but people will be more drawn to you in general.
So, I challenge you for the weekend: be EXTRA positive! If something bad happens (you spill a drink on your new shirt, have a regrettable one-night-stand, let a fart slip on a first date), laugh at it and then order everyone a drink, pass out or whatever your MO is.
Be EXTRA positive because being EXTRA anything else is just being an asshole.