“I will fart into every box of cereal you own…”
Sentences similar, often much more graphic, can be heard inside my car from time to time. I recently wished out loud for a family to have an unenjoyable meal at the restaurant they had just cut me off to get into. The sentence that follows these lapses usually sounds something like, “Wow, that was intense of me. Pretty sure they had a “Baby on Board” sign, too.” Lately, I’m taking a more conscious approach to positivity and it’s not easy.
Sometimes we need to consciously remind ourselves to be positive, or rather, not be negative. Without surveying a small percentage of the world, I can reasonably assume that this is the case for most humans. Shit happens. Life is rarely perfect. No. Life is rarely in the same universe as perfect. It’s how we respond to those bumps in the road that determines how much we enjoy the ride.
Not all people operate like this, however. Some people roaming this fine Earth are lucky enough to be a ray of sunshine from the moment their eyes open in the morning to the moment they close them at night. For them, positivity is unconscious or, they are sunshine rays without thinking about or trying to be. We love these people, they are great to be around!
Of course I wish I was one of these sunshine ray people. But hell, I’m fine with needing to sometimes remind myself to downshift and laugh. Because, even in a clunky unnatural way, it works. I do feel better after diffusing a bad mood before it ruins a perfectly good afternoon or starting from scratch on an email that was starting to sound more snarky than clever. Negatively charged thoughts and actions happen in a split second. They’re instinctual. That’s what makes hard-wiring your brain to warn you when one is coming fairly difficult. For comparison’s sake, with fitness related activities, you have all the time in the world to hem and haw about whether or not you should get your ass to the gym.
Nearly all of us need these little reminders; this isn’t a bad thing. Without them we’re slaves to our animalistic instinct and the behavior that comes with it. We’re more sophisticated than that, we walk on two legs and what not. Just like you’d want to learn a new language or learn how to ski, living with more unconscious positivity is something to strive toward, to practice for. I’m using my writing for this blog as practice. I encourage you to find ways to consciously bring more positivity and optimism to your day-to-day. On the way, feel free to use as many mental post-its as possible. Taking a moment to look at the stars is just as enjoyable whether it was a conscious thought or not.
And because… you should never wish a bad meal upon anyone, ever.